Even though a person has no memories or knowledge of previous lives and relationships, they have an influence on the current incarnation. Qualities developed and faculties obtained are incorporated in the personality even if they may not be active at the moment. Human relation­ships are recurring in different lives even though they are not taking the same form from life to life. Some souls are designated to help each other forward and they are brought together in different ways in different existences.

The primary cause for some people to be brought together in life after life is to help them forward in their development. If a bond between two people is strong it also increases the motivation to fight for developing the relationship. One gets a situation that prepares the ground for rapid and strong development. In these cases the relationship is often experienced as filled with problems, because the development requires that one works with a mutual problem area. One has a joint task to fulfil and it often requires hard work in the field of the soul. Sometimes one has not finished with this task within a lifetime but is reunited in future lives to finish what has been started.

Something that characterizes a relationship that has been active during many lives is the great love associated to it. Love grows accordingly as the relationship matures and it lives on over the lives to be activated when the parties of the relationship meet again. This love can, if the circumstances are right, be experienced as romantic love between two adults, but in most cases the original intention has not been this type of relationship.

If such a connection is allowed to bloom it can give immense happiness and satisfaction. The two souls will in this case work mutually to the best of both parties. But before reaching this state there are in general several lives with strife and struggle. The instinctive reaction when encountering such a connection is to protect the safety and security of one’s own person. If the connection is found overwhelming or threatening the reaction often is to fight or escape. One struggles to protect the own integrity or escapes to prevent other relationships from being damaged. The feelings of longing and dependence often awakened in such a connection can be experienced as so threatening that all contacts with these persons are cut off. But if the connection is given the opportunity to work within the intended scope it can create large and fast achievements precisely because of the power inherent in this type of bonds.